Denver Attachment Trauma Therapy
Heal from relational wounds. Feel like you’re enough.
The pain of attachment trauma doesn't always look like a major event; often, it shows up as a constant struggle to feel safe, seen, or secure with others. You might find yourself locked in familiar, painful cycles—people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, clinging tightly, or pulling away completely.
If you’ve spent years trying to fix your relationships or even fix yourself, but the patterns keep repeating, it’s a sign that something deeper is asking for attention.
I'm Allie Evans, an LMFT in the Denver Metro area, and I specialize in helping adults heal these core relational wounds. My work is dedicated to helping you move from a place of chronic anxiety and disconnection to one of genuine confidence and secure attachment.
What is attachment trauma? (and why you can’t just “fix” it)
Attachment trauma is not a formal diagnosis; it’s a term for the lingering impact of early relational experiences that taught you it wasn't consistently safe to be your authentic self. These experiences often involve a parent or caregiver who was emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, intrusive, or overwhelmed.
Your nervous system did what it needed to survive, developing protective strategies that made sense back then. But now, those strategies may be holding you back in your adult relationships, causing feelings of:
Relationship Anxiety: The constant fear of abandonment, rejection, or loss of closeness.
A Harsh Inner Critic: A voice that convinces you that if you were only better, smarter, or prettier, you would finally be loved the right way.
Relational Burnout: Feeling exhausted from the effort of maintaining a facade or walking on eggshells with loved ones.
Difficulty Trusting: Struggling to rely on others or to truly let someone see your vulnerable self.
The goal of therapy isn't to blame the past; it's to heal the emotional imprint it left on your present.
Specialized therapy for lasting attachment healing
AI don't just talk about your past; we work directly with the way your past lives in your body and your nervous system today. My approach to Attachment Trauma Therapy in Denver is specialized, holistic, and rooted in three evidence-based modalities designed for deep, lasting change.
1. Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Attachment wounds often fragment the self. IFS helps us compassionately identify the "parts" of you that are frozen in time—the People-Pleaser, the Rebel, the Inner Critic, and the Wounded Child. We work to bring Self-energy (compassion, curiosity, calm) to these parts, helping them release the burdens they've been carrying since childhood. This is the foundation for genuine self-leadership.
2. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
Relational trauma is stored in the brain as unprocessed memory, which makes you feel like the threat is happening now. EMDR is highly effective at helping the brain fully process these stuck memories. By healing the roots of the trauma, you can stop reacting to your present through the lens of your past, creating emotional distance from old wounds.
3. Somatic & Polyvagal-Informed Therapy
Healing attachment trauma requires soothing the body's defensive responses. Through Somatic Therapy, we focus on tracking sensations in the body, helping your nervous system move out of patterns of fight, flight, or freeze. By applying the principles of Polyvagal Theory, you learn how to actively regulate your nervous system, allowing you to access a calm state and build a durable capacity for secure connection.
Why choose a Denver specialist for attachment trauma?
Choosing a therapist who specializes in attachment and trauma is critical. You deserve more than surface-level coping skills; you deserve a therapist who understands the complexity of relational healing.
Holistic Expertise: I integrate the modalities (IFS, EMDR, Somatic) specifically because they work best together to heal trauma stored in both the mind and the body.
Safety and Trust: I am committed to co-creating the most important element of attachment healing: a consistently safe, secure, and non-judgmental therapeutic relationship where you can practice showing up authentically.
It’s time to rewrite your relationship with yourself and with the people you love. You can break the cycle.
If you’re ready to move from anxious or avoidant attachment toward a secure sense of self, I invite you to take the next step.
Contact me today to schedule a free, confidential consultation..