Lead well without losing yourself.
You run the accounts, the team, the pressure — and you're good at it. I'm Allie Evans, LMFT, and I offer a blend of executive coaching and depth therapy for San Diego executives, founders, and team leaders.
This isn't performance hacks or accountability check-ins. It's confidential work on the person running the performance: why certain people get under your skin, why you can't power down, and how to lead from intention instead of autopilot.
San Diego Executive Coaching & Therapy
Signs the weight of leadership is costing you more than it should
One specific person on your team can derail your whole day, and your reaction is bigger than the situation deserves.
You're physically at dinner, at the beach, at your kid's game — and mentally still in the last meeting.
You've hit every milestone that was supposed to feel like arrival, and mostly you feel like you're running a very successful machine on autopilot.
Feedback that should roll off you lands like a threat.
The role is lonelier than anyone around you realizes, because there's no one you can be unguarded with.
None of these mean something is wrong with you. They mean something in you is working very hard — and it's worth understanding what.
Why do certain people on your team trigger you?
Because they're standing on an old wire. The direct report who won't take ownership, the peer who talks over you, the boss whose silence reads as disappointment — when your reaction to someone is consistently bigger than the moment, that person is usually activating a pattern much older than your org chart.
Using Internal Family Systems (IFS), we get curious about the part of you that fires in those moments and what it learned to protect, long before you had a team. Leaders tell me this single piece of work changes more about how they manage than any framework they've been handed.
Coaching is genuinely useful — for strategy, skills, and structure. But if you've worked with a good coach and keep hitting the same wall, the block usually isn't a skills gap. It's a pattern: the perfectionism that won't let you delegate, the old fear that makes conflict feel dangerous, the drive that can't tell the difference between excellence and survival.
Coaching optimizes what you do. Therapy works with why you do it — and for most of the leaders I see, the why is where the growth actually is.
You didn't move to San Diego to answer Slack from the beach. If your mind can't stop working even when your calendar does, that's not a discipline problem — it's a nervous system that no longer trusts the off switch. Through somatic work, we retrain that system so presence at home stops being something you force and starts being somewhere you actually live.
When executive coaching isn't enough
How I work with San Diego leaders
Sessions are online throughout California — whether you're in La Jolla, North County, downtown, or anywhere in between — and built around a real executive calendar. For leaders who think better in motion (many do), I also offer walk-and-talk sessions in Del Mar.
I’m trained in IFS, EMDR, and somatic therapy, and our sessions are completely confidential: no insurance records, no one in your company involved, nothing connected to your professional life.
Contact Allie to start executive and leadership therapy
FAQs
Is this executive coaching or therapy?
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Both, honestly — and the blend is the point. You get the leadership focus and practicality of coaching with the clinical depth of a licensed therapist. We work on real situations from your week, and we also work on the patterns underneath them, which is the part coaching alone can't reach.
Is this confidential?
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Completely. I'm private-pay, so nothing touches insurance records, and our work is protected in ways coaching relationships aren't. Nobody in your company knows unless you tell them.
I'm not in crisis. Is therapy still worth it?
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The leaders I work with are almost never in crisis — they're successful people who want to understand themselves better than autopilot allows. That's not a lesser reason for therapy. It's arguably the best one.
Do I have to come in person?
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No. Sessions are online anywhere in California. Walk-and-talk sessions in Del Mar are an option, not a requirement.